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Sunday, 22 November 2009

  • Wow it's been almost a year since i've last updated.

    Does anyone read xanga anymore? It's all about facebook now. I know i've been lazy to blog for the past 11 months.

    This has been a really long year. Yet sometimes when I look back it did go by relatively quickly.

    Wedding came and went. Honeymoon was awesome. Just got back from the Bahamas  and am dreading work tomorrow. It's always so busy near the end of the year. Lots of projects to wrap up. Now that i'm married it is "when are you going to have kids?" As much as I want them and I want to give Alex a big family, I just can't see myself as a responsible parent anytime in the near future. Sure they are cute and cuddly and I am always cooing over other peoples kids but luckily I don't have to take them home. Sometimes I feel like I should just suck it up and have children. First I will need to change my shopping habits. Secondly I feel like we should have a house first. You give up so much when you have children. I don't know if i'm mentally and financially prepared for that yet. I feel like i'm still young. However, people often remind me that i'm not that young anymore.  How sad is that? I'm only 26!

    Career is still a huge question mark. I don't know if i'm going to continue with the CPA. I know I should. I know everyone thinks that I can do it. Failing/giving up just seems so much easier. =/ I think I tried too do too much in 2009 which is probably the reason for so many failures. At least my parents are in the right spirit. My dad told me not to be ashamed even if i have to take the darn exam 10 times. Ha.

    Life is short. There has been so many ups and downs this year. I think this year I will wish for good health for my family and friends.

Sunday, 04 January 2009

  • 2009

    Weird. 2008 just came and went way too quickly. Where did the year go? How is it 2009 already? They say time flies when you're having fun but time flies just the same when you're miserable and stressed out. Hmm at least I think I can take some comfort in that....except as the wedding and my CPA deadline creeps closer I am starting to feel panicky.

    In about 4 more months I am going to be a Mrs. So weird!! I am nervous, no doubt about it. There's still so much to do and so little time. I really hate making decisions. I am too indecisive for my own good. I hope Alex won't be my only friend once we're married. Sometimes it feels like it's just us. Half of my closest girlfriends are out of Cali and the other half that is here....we're all so buys we probably only see each other once a month if we're lucky. Sucks but that's life I guess.

    Alex and I finally move in together. Into an ultra swanky junior 1 bedroom condo across from AT&T park. Believe me we're paying an arm and a leg for it but it's ok. We're young. We don't have kids or debt so I guess it's ok to splurge this year. I love my apt! We're on the 15th floor and we have almost a 180 degree view of the city. We didn't even have to leave our apt to see the fireworks on New Year's eve (our original plan backfired as we were unpacking/organizing until 3am). Yes the view is the best part and totally worth the extra $150/month compared to another unit on the 4th floor. My first take on domestic partnership? It's not half bad. For me it's always difficult living with people because I am super anal and everything bugs the shit out of me. I had my doubts about Alex but he's really shaped up. He'll even pick up my socks when I leave them in the living room  (ha guess whose habit I picked that up from?).

    A year away from the kitchen and I am super rusty already! I tried making oatmeal this morning for breakfast and I couldn't do it. I used too much water. Alex laughed at me. He says I'm going to have to re-learn everything. He might be right. Damn it. I can't wait to try out new recipes and invent new things too cook.

    I bet 2009 will go by just as quickly as 2008. I can't wait for the wedding to be over so that we can go on our honeymoon! I need a vacation SO BADLY!!!!! Alex and I didn't take a real vacation in 2008 (and by real we mean laying on a beach somewhere) so don't mind me if i get crabbier by the day. It's ok 4.5 more months and we can relax. Ugh I hate...no I LOATHE planning.

    Work - hmmm think i'll work on my resume and look around a bit. Not too sure what I want to do. I really hate accounting and I think 3 years is enough time to reevaluate what I want to do with my life. I don't know why I continue to try and pass the CPA. 90% of the time I feel like there's no point because I hate the field and I rather be doing anything else. But what else? That is the million dollar question. If only I was passionate about something....anything....*sigh*

    I don't know if I have any new year resolutions for 2009. I guess try to be happy and less moody? We'll see....we shall see....

    Oh save as much money as possible. That's a given. Although not sure how much I can really save with the expensive rent & utilities  crossing my fingers for a huge bonus....gimme gimme gimme!

Sunday, 30 November 2008

  • Am I settling?

    So my wedding dress is completely altered (I kept the original off-the-rack dress that I bought 5 months ago). The seamstress did exactly what I asked and the dress turned out exactly how I wanted it. My bridesmaids & close friends have seen it and they love it. They think i'm crazy for thinking that it wasn't THE dress.

    Yet I still can't shake the feeling that I am still a little unsure of it. The funny thing is this dress was pretty much what I wanted when I first starting looking. I know I jumped the gun when I saw that it was available the second time I visited the salon. Many mistakes were made at the first couple of shopping experiences. I just wish I feel completely in love with my dress. Right now i'm just feeling like "eh, ok it's done, it looks fine, now I can move on". Gosh what is wrong with me?!

    Maybe nothing will ever appease me. I just want to experience the same feeling as the girls on Say Yes to the Dress when they find their perfect gown. Maybe i'll be waiting forever for that blow-my-socks-off kind of feeling  Some people say the wedding is all about the bride and her dress. Great thanks, no pressure there! I know that deep down inside the wedding is about me and my future-husband-to-be and no one else. I know all of that and I know he will think I look amazing in whatever I wear (or else I will be sicking my bmaids on him ). But I'm a girl, a girly-girl, a fashion girl, a hopelessly romantic girl that has been waiting for this moment her whole life. I can't be feeling bleh about my wedding dress! The hunting experience was suppose to be fun and when you find THE dress the feeling is suppose to be euphoric. Where is it? Why am I not feeling it? I want to be blown away just as much as I want Alex to be blown away when he sees me on our big day.

    I hate me.

     

Thursday, 20 November 2008

Monday, 27 October 2008

  • In need of some xanga therapy

    These past couple of months have been nothing short but stressful. Why was my outlook at the beginning of this year so positive? The year is almost over and I cannot think of a stretch of time where I wasn't stressed out and ready to jump off a bridge. Why am I so stressed? Three things come to mind:

    1. Work
    2. CPA
    3. Wedding Planning

    The combination if lethal. I AM BURNT OUT. And it doesn't look like Alex and I are taking a vacation this year because we need to save for our wedding. We had contemplated going to hawaii over Thanksgiving holiday but that is going to cost us at least $2k.

    I can't think of a week these past couple of months where I didn't have a complete mental breakdown. The stress of studying and wedding planning is getting to be too much. Work is work. I've started to not care anymore. My motivation is shot. I go in, do what I have to do and get out.

    I am also sick and tired of my inability to make a decision on my freakin dress. Isn't bridal gown shopping suppose to be the best experience for a bride-to-be? Maybe I used up all my excitement the first time around and became totally jaded after I realize the mistake I made with my first dress. I've been to a total of 7 boutiques in the last 6 months. I get excited and then I just feel "eh" and then i'm left with 3-4 dress I like but I can't seem to pick one. This indecisiveness is holding me back from moving on with the planning. I've got a gazillion other things to do/worry about. Time is running out. The pressure is immense. The consultants are waiting for a decision from me, my family is waiting for a decision from me. Even my brother is stressed out just looking at how stressed out I am. I feel I've exhausted all my bridesmaids already. As a last resort, I even made Alex go wedding gown shopping with me.

    Will I get through this year alive? More importantly will I still have my sanity come next May?

    What if I don't pass all my exams by my deadline? Is my career so much more important? I want to do it all....but all the signs are pointing to failure. Maybe there is no such thing as having it all.....one thing has to give....what will it be? my wedding? or my career?

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